Adversity is not a test. Instead, it’s a revealer. It shows you what’s inside after the fire melts the weaker parts away. It’s what settles and remains when the storms of life pass.
In speaking to reporters about this year’s football team, defensive coordinator for the Michigan Wolverines, Don Brown, spoke on this very issue. He was asked how he felt about losing so many starters from last year’s team to the NFL. One reporter asked:
“How are you feeling about losing so many seniors and starters from your defense. Are you worried about that at all?”
Here was his response. It’s so good!
“I’m not concerned about that. What I’m concerned about is what happens when adversity shows up and introduces a man to himself.”
Did you catch it? It’s subtle but profound and important for us all to pay attention to. […]
The Crazy Cycle. You may not know the phrase, but if you’ve been married for any length of time, you’ll definitely recognize what it is.
The Crazy Cycle is a term that was coined by Emerson Eggerichs, author of the best-selling book, Love & Respect. In this fantastic book (his live training and videos are excellent as well!), he explains what this all-too-familiar issue is all about.
I try to give a quick explanation of it here, in the video below. […]
Your Primary Aim.
When it’s all said and done and your life is no more…what will you have accomplished, done, or left behind that will truly have mattered?
Will you have ended up where you wanted to go?
Did you do all that you hoped you would do?
In this podcast, we investigate these issues […]
“Change the world”. It sounds like a great idea. But to be honest, I doubt that anything I might say or do will have any impact on it at all. I mean, I am only one person. In the grand scheme of things, I am a small piece of the puzzle and I am not influential or able to make much of a difference. What good could someone as insignificant as me make in the world? Who would even care? What difference would it possibly make?
Have you ever felt that? Do you feel that way now?
For most of us, we simply feel the defeat of insignificance when it comes to having an impact on the world or creating the change that we would like to see.
But there is something inside of me that knows that this is not completely true. There is a part of me (and I would guess that this may be in you as well) that believes that we actually CAN make a difference and create change in our world.
In fact, there is a model of how this can work that has stood the test of time. It is a way that average, ordinary, insignificant people can be used to do big things. […]
Investing or Gambling? This isn’t an either/or question for you. It’s a question about which of these money management approaches you use when it comes to how you invest your money. For many people, it’s more of a both/and approach.
You see, for many people, putting money into retirement accounts, 401ks, IRAs, or anything similar is like an investment and a trip to the casino all at the same time. It feels like investing to them, but the way that they think of money and what they understand about what they’re doing is a lot more like gambling. The average investor simply doesn’t understand the rules of the game and their main approach is to rely heavily on “hope” or “good luck” to win in the end.
After a decade of working in this industry (I am retired now), I can tell you that this is not a compliment, nor a good thing.
So here’s how you can make sure that you’re doing it right. […]
Have you ever been asked to do something and it scared you to death? I don’t mean dumb or dangerous things either. Like the time we had school called off when I was in high school because of an ice storm that rolled through. A few friends and I decided to drive around on the backroads and “skate” by rolling down the windows and standing outside of the car and holding on while someone drove slowly around. Needless to say, that was very dumb and something we should have been scared of. But that’s not what I’m talking about here.
What I’m talking about are those moments in life when you know you should do something that will help you to grow but it scares you to death. Things like speaking in front of an audience, taking the lead on a project, speaking up for a friend when they’re getting bullied, or standing up for your rights.
Wouldn’t it be nice, in fact, if God didn’t make us go through all of those scary moments for the rest of our lives? I mean, isn’t once or twice enough!?
Sadly, that’s not the way that life works. Fortunately for us, though, every time we’re confronted with things that are scary, we get the opportunity to grow stronger. That’s why these challenges will never leave us alone and it’s why we have to learn how to handle them when they do show up.
So here are 3 things that you need to remember when you’re facing something scary in your life. […]