27 11, 2017

5 questions to help parents get to the heart of an issue and find the truth.

By | 2017-11-22T14:02:44+00:00 November 27th, 2017|Family Life|0 Comments

As I sit here in my basement office, I am constantly reminded of my four beautiful children.  Is it because they are always on my mind?  Is it because I have a huge heart for them and my thoughts just easily make their way back to them?  That’s partly true, yes.  But not exactly what I’m getting at here. The reason I am constantly reminded of my children is that there is no insulation or sound-proofing between me and them.  As I begin to train my thoughts on projects that I am working on (like writing this blog post), I am continually confronted with the sounds of young children. The running back and forth throughout the house. The crying and the yelling. The singing (oh man…the endless singing of the same choruses over and over and over… “Let it go!  “Let it go!  Can’t hold it back anymore…”) Now don’t get me wrong, I love it.  I really do.  There are times that I just stop and listen to all of the craziness in the rooms up above me and I realize that I am living in the very moments of life that many empty-nesters would pay anything to return to. I get it. But to be honest with you, it’s still pretty noisy and there are times I just need to focus and have it a little bit quieter. It feels this way especially when there is fighting going on between the girls.  In our house, it’s rarely the physical kind of fighting, but more like the mean-spirited arguing and talking down to one another that we see and hear.  That, or someone has made the egregious mistake of taking something that didn’t belong to them or they looked at someone funny.  (gasp!) It’s in these moments that we (as parents) need [...]

15 11, 2017

3 things parents use to motivate children to change – but NEVER should! (w/video)

By | 2017-11-22T14:05:04+00:00 November 15th, 2017|Family Life|0 Comments

How do we motivate children to change?  It’s not easy, is it?  As parents of four children (all girls) ages 12 to 3, my wife and I have found that God has made each one of them uniquely her own.  What works to motivate one kid doesn’t work at all for another.  What we do to help foster change in one child is a complete miss in another. So what do we do? If you’re like us, you’re always looking for the manual.  You know what I’m talking about.  The “Here’s what to do in every situation.” parenting manual that you’re supposed to get when the stork drops your kids off on your porch. But we can’t find ours.  (I’m guessing the kids stole it.) Since our manual is missing, we’ve had to learn (or try to learn) how to motivate children all on our own.  But instead of sharing with you ideas that work for us (heck, we’re still learning!), I wanted to share 3 things that parents should NEVER do to try to change or motivate children. (see video below) […]

8 11, 2017

Parenting ideas for dealing with electronic devices: 5 Keys to finding balance.

By | 2017-11-22T14:05:57+00:00 November 8th, 2017|Family Life|0 Comments

Electronic devices have taken over our lives.  Television, iPads, iPods, computers, gaming devices, and more.  Technological advances have changed the game and it has changed the way families communicate, interact, and live their lives. Not only are the electronic devices a distraction and an obstacle for kids, but adults struggle to find the proper balance as well.  In many cases, parents and children are equally as bad when it comes to spending too much time on their electronics. It will come as no surprise that this is one of the most common issues that I hear from parents on a regular basis.  It often sounds something like this: “I just struggle to find the right balance.  We use electronic devices for so many good things like school and reading, but I don’t want them to be on there all of the time either.  I’m just not sure what to do.” Sound familiar? If so, keep reading and find out 5 key things that parents need to address to help their families find balance in the battle of electronic devices in the home.  […]