Next to your relationship with God, this is #2.  We need to make it the best we can because so much of the joy and strength we experience as a family is derived from this key relationship.

2 11, 2017

What Love Does and Love Doesn’t Do.

By | 2017-11-02T10:09:23+00:00 November 2nd, 2017|Marriage|0 Comments

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”  – 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 My wife and I have been happily married now for 13 years.  It has been an amazing journey and we pray that God gives us long life and many more wonderful years.  But marriage has its ups and downs.  Its greatest hits and the hits that keep on coming. Through it all, we find out so much about what love is really about.  What its like and what it does and doesn’t do. Take this marriage test below and see how well you stack up.  Every time you see the word “love” replace it with your first name and read the sentence again.  See how well you score.  […]

6 09, 2017

How Bad Attitudes Ruin Good Marriages

By | 2017-09-06T09:31:18+00:00 September 6th, 2017|Marriage|2 Comments

Bad attitudes can kill a good marriage.  That’s not necessarily newsworthy or something you didn’t already know.  But it’s something that we need to be reminded of every once in a while, I think.  Bad attitudes often cause good marriages to end up in a place where they wonder, “How did we end up here?  What happened?”  Many times, it all started with bad attitudes that simply went unchecked. I work from home most of the time and my wife, Sarah, is a homemaker.  So that means that we have plenty of time to hang out with one another and get on each other’s nerves.  It happens to the best of us. But she is great at doing something that quickly diffuses the situation and helps us to move past those moments in our marriage that aren’t very fun. Here’s her trick. […]

26 06, 2017

3 Big Questions Every Focused Family Must Answer

By | 2017-07-31T15:26:56+00:00 June 26th, 2017|Marriage|2 Comments

Your family matters more to you than anything else in the entire world.  There isn’t anything that you wouldn’t do for them.  But if I were to ask you what the end goal for your family was, or the plan you have of how to make that goal happen, or where you can best go to accomplish your goal, you may stumble a bit for answers.  That’s what today’s blog post is all about. Helping you find clarity about 3 big questions every focused family must ask. If you’ve ever been a part of any goal-setting sessions (with yourself or a team) then you’ll easily recognize this pattern.  In fact, as you do, you’ll likely have the same reaction I did when it dawned on me to finally apply these 3 big questions to our family. “Why hadn’t I thought about applying this to my family?!  It makes so much sense.” “These questions are so basic.  Is this it?” Don’t worry if those aren’t your sentiments.  But they were certainly mine.  As you go through these 3 big questions, ask yourself how clear you are in how they apply to your family.  I think you’ll see why I believe every focused family must ask them. […]

26 04, 2017

Time Management: Addicted to Busyness

By | 2017-07-31T17:43:55+00:00 April 26th, 2017|Health, Marriage|0 Comments

Time management is tough for a lot of us.  We are non-stop from the moment we get up and feel like there is never enough time to get everything done.  We shake our heads in disbelief and wonder how other people do it. Think about your own life for a minute.  With your busy schedule and growing To-Do list, does it feel like your life is energetic or draining?  Bustling or flat-out busy? If you’re more like the latter of those two options, then maybe this post is for you. […]

5 04, 2017

Killing Comparison

By | 2017-07-31T17:53:28+00:00 April 5th, 2017|Marriage|2 Comments

Marriage can be tough.  But sometimes we make it much harder than it has to be.  In today’s post, I want to look at one of the ways that we often hurt our marriages unintentionally.  The way that we do this is through a sneaky word:  Comparison. Comparison is like a sickness or disease in our body.  If left unchecked or untreated, it contaminates everything around it and can cause the sickness to spread.  When it comes to marriage, an unfair comparison is often the root cause of many of the battles that couples face.  We see it’s effects manifested in many ways. bitterness anger jealousy frustration secret romances mistrust disappointment Protect your marriage from the comparison trap before it gets set.  Here are three ways. […]

8 03, 2017

What Your Wife Needs Most

By | 2017-07-31T18:04:34+00:00 March 8th, 2017|Marriage|0 Comments

When I first married my wife, I thought marriage would be pretty simple.  (I know…I know…I’m a dummy!)  In many ways, it was and still is. My wife is very easy going, easy on the eyes, and easy to get along with.  So this should be pretty easy, I thought.  I mean, what could go wrong? Well, me.  I was what went wrong! I had no idea how hard marriage could be or how selfish I really was.  I was used to life my way.  I wanted shoes put away my way.  I wanted the tv on – but I wanted it on my way.  I expected married life to be an easy thing – and it was – as long as it went my way. What an idiot! Fortunately for me, my wife is also an easy forgiver.  She doesn’t hold grudges and moves on quickly.  I am very grateful for that.  Over time, we have learned more and more about each other and how to serve each other better.  We have been married now for almost 13 years and so far, life has been good.  To make sure that it keeps getting better I wanted to look at some ways that show her how special she is to me. Here are 4 things that I think she needs the most. […]

8 02, 2017

How To Have A Thriving Marriage

By | 2017-02-09T13:08:20+00:00 February 8th, 2017|Marriage|4 Comments

Marriage is an amazing thing.  You fall in love and get to spend the rest of your life with the one person you trust, enjoy, are attracted to, and can’t wait to grow old with.  Of all the people you could choose from, you chose them and they chose you.  It’s a wonderful thing! But things change, don’t they?  Not every day is a walk in the park.  Life can get in the way.  Kids can get in the way.  Money can get in the way.  Stress can get in the way. Its hard to imagine that this is true before you say, “I do”.  But it does.  We all know the statistics when it comes to how many people are divorcing these days and it’s a tragic thing.  So what can we do? People don’t get married and believe they will be the next one in line at divorce court.  But it happens every day.  So here are some things to consider that may help you to not only stay together, but thrive in your marriage. […]

7 09, 2016

Husbands, Love Your Wives

By | 2017-07-31T18:23:20+00:00 September 7th, 2016|Marriage|0 Comments

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her Husbands, love your wives.  Got it.  Check!  I do that.  Hopefully, if you’re a husband, you do that too.  But it’s bigger than just loving her, isn’t it?  In fact, here’s the question I want you to consider today if you are a husband (it’s a good question to ask if you’re a wife with a great husband at home, too): When it comes to being a husband, how do you want to be remembered someday when its all said and done? I’ll share with you what I’m hoping for in this post and at the end, I’d love to hear what your goal is.  But before we get to that, let me address why I’m writing about this. My passion and mission here is learning to Thrive at Life.  So let’s face it, if your marriage ain’t right, nothing else matters.  When your home is in order everything else is simply a continuation of the blessings.  But if it’s a mess, so is the rest. In many ways, getting it right is simply a matter of making a decision to do so. […]

17 08, 2016

7 Ways To Be A Happier Mom At Home

By | 2016-08-24T14:44:04+00:00 August 17th, 2016|Marriage|2 Comments

Finish the sentence for me… “If momma ain’t happy, _____________”.  That’s right, “ain’t nobody happy!”.  While this may be mostly funny, we all know that being a mom is serious work and it isn’t always easy. Just being a mom, in general, is hard work.  But then add the stresses and demands of being a business owner or entrepreneur along with it and life can get downright tough for everyone. I am not a mom.  But I was born to an awesome one, have an incredible mom-in-law, and I am married and communicate every day with the best mom I know.  I have seen firsthand the pressure there is to be one and to do so many things: Take care of kids Keep up with household chores Plan meals and grocery shop (my wife hates grocery shopping!) Be a great wife Clean up after the kids Be a 24 hour chaueffer That’s just to name a few!  On top of that, the pressure is there to do it with a smile.  To be happy the whole time. While this may be unrealistic, there are some things that you can do to help you reach your goal of being a happier mom at home. Here are 7 ways: […]

3 08, 2016

50 Things To Do With Your Family This Summer

By | 2017-09-29T09:12:44+00:00 August 3rd, 2016|Marriage|0 Comments

When I was growing up, there was a saying on a picture in our home that said, “The family that prays together, stays together.”  I agree!  But I also like to put my own twist on that saying so I came up with my own.  It says, “The family that plays together, stays together.”  Ok, that’s not copyrighted by me and it’s been said before, but I love it! Summertime is one of the best times to create memories with your family and to focus on spending quality time with the ones that matter most.  If you’re intentional about it, you can capture some great moments and create as many memories as possible. So let me do the brainstorming for you!  Here are 50 things to do this summer with your family may help. […]