Thriving at life means dealing with people.  Growing in this key area is critical to the life we live and the legacy we leave.

24 07, 2017

Fight!

By | 2017-07-31T14:29:39+00:00 July 24th, 2017|Key Relationships, Spiritual Life|0 Comments

Do you ever fight with yourself? I definitely do! When I fight and lose to myself, this is probably what you would hear me say, “Why did I just do that?! Dang it! I am such an idiot!” (Seriously, that happens.  Listen to the video below to hear more about this story I am about to tell.) It seems that no matter how hard I try, I am always fighting.  Not against other people though.  I am in a fight against myself and it is one of the most frustrating things in all of life. If you’ve ever read the Bible then you may have read this passage of Scripture from Romans 7:15-20. It’s exactly what I feel like I’m up against sometimes. “I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate – I do. And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing. Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it.” Paul knew what it was like to fight against himself. Maybe you do, too. If so, keep reading. There’s hope for idiots like us. (Sorry, no offense) […]

14 06, 2017

5 Gift Ideas for Father’s Day

By | 2017-07-31T16:18:03+00:00 June 14th, 2017|Key Relationships|0 Comments

Have you ever gone to Google and searched for gift ideas for Father’s Day?  Maybe that’s how you found this post in the first place!  If so, you’re not alone and you’re in the right place.  Finding the perfect gift for dad is tough.  I mean, what exactly do you get a guy who swears he “really doesn’t want anything at all!”? I have some ideas. Here they are – 5 meaningful gifts that your dad REALLY wants. […]

5 06, 2017

3 Ways to Deal with Conflict

By | 2017-07-31T15:51:31+00:00 June 5th, 2017|Key Relationships|0 Comments

Conflict is inevitable in relationships.  Whether it is with siblings, spouses, co-workers, employees, in-laws, or while dating, disagreements happen and conflicts arise.  How we deal with these issues, however, is where the rubber meets the road.  It is here that we must learn to deal with conflict in a way that maintains the relationship and moves it forward. One of the best principles that I have found and try to hold on to when dealing with conflict is this: “My response is my responsibility.” That is a principle worth embracing.  In fact, it is learning to respond to conflict – rather than reacting to it – that will make the biggest difference when the next conflict comes around.  You can’t control how anyone else responds.  But you can control how you do. Here are a few ways that you can keep your relationships intact as you learn to deal with conflict by responding and not reacting. […]

29 03, 2017

Guard and Grow Your Mind

By | 2017-07-31T17:57:38+00:00 March 29th, 2017|Key Relationships|0 Comments

In this two-part series, we are looking at the potential that we hold for living a thriving, full life.  But as we saw in Part One, there are enemies and obstacles that get in our way.  If left unchecked, these things may cause us to miss out on the potential we have to live a life of greatness.  In the first part of this conversation, we discussed the idea of guarding your mind.  We do this by recognizing, first of all, that not all people are neutral.  Even those closest to us can unintentionally keep us from living life to the fullest.  Many times, the potential that we have is stolen from (like a squirrel steals an acorn) one dream and one idea at a time.  We are side-swiped by words that may come from kind sources, but leave us questioning if the life we dream of is still possible for us. “Stay where you are.  You need to play it safe.  Don’t do something stupid.” “Isn’t this one of those pyramid schemes?” “You need to be more responsible.  Besides, no one loves what they do.  You need to give that idea up.” “It’s too late to start now.” Slowly but surely our potential is crushed by the opinions and words of others.  But we can fight against it if we not only guard our minds but do this as well. […]

27 03, 2017

Guard and Grow Your Mind

By | 2017-07-31T17:58:57+00:00 March 27th, 2017|Key Relationships, Mindset|0 Comments

Our mind is a lot like an oak tree.  They are full of potential and hold the possibility for greatness.  But there are enemies and obstacles that get in the way of reaching that potential.  In this two-part series, (you can read Part 2 here) I will explain how this is true and how we can learn to guard and grow our minds more carefully. Here’s what I mean. Each year, an oak tree produces thousands of acorns.  In fact, a huge oak tree can produce close to 10,000 in a mast year.  There are so many acorns, in fact, that one tree has the potential of populating a decent-sized forest all by itself!  But it doesn’t ever happen that way.  Why is that? There are two main reasons and, as you’ll see, these reasons are not so different from what keeps you and I from our potential for greatness as well. The reasons?  Squirrels and the hard ground at the foot of the tree. In this short conversation, I want to look at how this relates to us and give a few, simple ways that we can change this. […]

20 02, 2017

How to be Happy

By | 2017-07-31T18:14:04+00:00 February 20th, 2017|Key Relationships|0 Comments

I consider myself a happy person.  But I can also be a jerk.  All too often, I find myself being a complainer too.  I’m moody.  I’m often selfish and I can have a terrible attitude.  (Hopefully someone else can relate to this and it’s not just me!).  But I like the “me” that is happy the best.  I know everyone who has to be around me does too. As I was thinking about this it reminded me of a story I read recently about a woman named Judy. Judy is an incredibly happy, positive, and joyful woman.  When the author of the story described her, you could just picture this woman’s smile.  Her eyes, beaming with joy.  Her personality was full of life and vigor.  She was upbeat, energetic, and fun.  In short, Judy is the kind of person that you instantly like and makes you wish you could be just like her.  As I read about this amazing woman, it made me think, “Gosh, I would love for people to describe me just like that!” Then you read the rest of her story. Judy is in a wheelchair.  Born without legs. Despite her circumstances, Judy is everything that I described above:  joyful, vibrant, positive, full of life.  Judy is happy. How can this be true?  More importantly, how can this be true for you and I?  Here are a couple of ways that we can learn to become happy, just like Judy, no matter what you’re going through or dealing with. […]

31 08, 2016

Why Family Traditions Matter

By | 2017-07-31T18:22:17+00:00 August 31st, 2016|Key Relationships|0 Comments

Family traditions are important to your health and your business.  Take the Japanese culture, for example.  Sociologists have long considered the Japanese to be among the healthiest and most vibrant groups of people in the world.  Many of the people that live the longest come from Japan.  Why is that?  For many years, this was thought to be the because of their diet.  A diet based on more fish and vegetables and less on red meat and starches (such as the American diet). But an interesting hypothesis has been proposed. What if the reason for the longevity and health of the Japanese has more to do with its family and community structures than with the food that they eat?  What if family traditions had more to do with their vitality than anything else? This hypothesis is an important one for all of us to consider.   […]

22 08, 2016

How Business Leaders Help Their Teams Succeed

By | 2017-07-31T18:21:05+00:00 August 22nd, 2016|Key Relationships|0 Comments

As a business leader, I want to help my team to win.  We all do.  But I have a problem.  Maybe I should just admit it to you.  I’ll go first. Hi.  My name is Nate and I have a problem.  I am a junkie.  It’s true.  A die-hard, can’t get enough of it, football junkie! As I write this post, the upcoming football season is just under a month away.  I am giddy!  I can hardly stand it.  I can almost smell the tailgating and feel the winds of change coming. Football is here and life is good! I was flipping through the channels the other day and came across the B1G media days.  The media days are a few days of coaches from the conference coming together to talk about the upcoming season.  In one of the sessions, a reporter was asking a head coach about how he evaluates his quarterbacks.  “What are the thing you are looking for when you’re trying to determine which quarterback to use or when you’re trying to determine who is a good fit for your program?” I was interested in what he would say.  In fact, I think that you may be, too.  His answer holds a few key thoughts for you and your ability to lead in your business as well. […]

25 07, 2016

The best leadership question ever!

By | 2016-09-02T14:39:15+00:00 July 25th, 2016|Key Relationships|1 Comment

The topic of leadership is not a new one.  Countless articles, blogs, and books have been written on the subject.  Why?  Because, I would argue, it is the MOST important issue that confronts home based business owners and entrepreneurs today. When it comes to discussing leadership principles, the questions abound: What does it take to be a great leader? How do I become a better leader? What can I do to get my team to follow me? What do I do if I don’t feel like a leader? I work for myself, why is leadership important to me? Chances are, you’ve probably asked these questions or ones similar to it. But here’s another question for you to consider: Have you asked the best leadership question ever? Lets see if you have! […]

11 07, 2016

Leading your team with the Theology of the Buckets

By | 2016-09-05T19:08:59+00:00 July 11th, 2016|Key Relationships|0 Comments

I had never heard of The Theology of the Buckets before this past Sunday in church.  Maybe you haven’t either.  Regardless of your religious leanings, I think you will agree that this “theology” lesson will help you improve your serve and strengthen your ability to lead your team. In the bible, there two powerful and famous scenes that you have probably heard of many times before. Most likely, you’ve just never heard of them in terms of serving your team. Here’s how they go: Story 1:  Jesus has been handed over to Pilate by the angry and jealous crowd.  Pilate was in charge.  He had the ability to make decisions and his word has authority.  He had the power to lead.  Pilate goes to the crowd and asks for their opinion but the decision is ultimately his.  Before him is a bucket of water. However, this was no ordinary bucket.  You see, Pilate can lead and do what’s right or he can cave in and do what’s convenient.  I think you know which way this story goes. Rather than leading and getting his hands dirty, Pilate does what so many of us still do today.  He went to his bucket, dipped his hands into the water, shook them off, washed his hands and said, “He’s not my responsibility.  You take care of this.” Story 2:  Jesus is with his disciples.  They have heard Him talk many times about leaving and being handed over to the authorities.  They know it won’t be long now before He is crucified and killed.  So they do what many of us would probably do too…they jockey for position and talk about who will be #1 when He is gone.  But Jesus, being who He is, knew what they were thinking and saying among themselves.  He needed a powerful way [...]