No matter how old you are, if you have kids, the job of a parent never ends. We must grow and learn in each stage of life how to lead and love our kids. Their health and well-being are the legacy we leave behind.

15 11, 2017

3 things parents use to motivate children to change – but NEVER should! (w/video)

By | 2017-11-17T13:48:06+00:00 November 15th, 2017|Parenting|0 Comments

How do we motivate children to change?  It’s not easy, is it?  As parents of four children (all girls) ages 12 to 3, my wife and I have found that God has made each one of them uniquely her own.  What works to motivate one kid doesn’t work at all for another.  What we do to help foster change in one child is a complete miss in another. So what do we do? If you’re like us, you’re always looking for the manual.  You know what I’m talking about.  The “Here’s what to do in every situation.” parenting manual that you’re supposed to get when the stork drops your kids off on your porch. But we can’t find ours.  (I’m guessing the kids stole it.) Since our manual is missing, we’ve had to learn (or try to learn) how to motivate children all on our own.  But instead of sharing with you ideas that work for us (heck, we’re still learning!), I wanted to share 3 things that parents should NEVER do to try to change or motivate children. (see video below) […]

8 11, 2017

Parenting ideas for dealing with electronic devices: 5 Keys to finding balance.

By | 2017-10-30T10:55:48+00:00 November 8th, 2017|Key Relationships, Parenting|0 Comments

Electronic devices have taken over our lives.  Television, iPads, iPods, computers, gaming devices, and more.  Technological advances have changed the game and it has changed the way families communicate, interact, and live their lives. Not only are the electronic devices a distraction and an obstacle for kids, but adults struggle to find the proper balance as well.  In many cases, parents and children are equally as bad when it comes to spending too much time on their electronics. It will come as no surprise that this is one of the most common issues that I hear from parents on a regular basis.  It often sounds something like this: “I just struggle to find the right balance.  We use electronic devices for so many good things like school and reading, but I don’t want them to be on there all of the time either.  I’m just not sure what to do.” Sound familiar? If so, keep reading and find out 5 key things that parents need to address to help their families find balance in the battle of electronic devices in the home.  […]

18 09, 2017

How to keep your family connected when kids to back to school.

By | 2017-09-18T09:46:24+00:00 September 18th, 2017|Parenting, UNCOMMON|0 Comments

Keeping your family connected when school gets back into the swing of things can be a challenge for every family.  It takes a lot of focus but it isn’t impossible.  In fact, there are 3 times each day that you can strategically use to keep your family focused and keep connected.  Quality time doesn’t have to be a long time together in order to be meaningful. But you will have to do create a routine or find a rhythm that works. Here’s what I suggest. (video) […]

14 08, 2017

Bad advice that MOST parents give to their children.

By | 2017-08-18T12:20:02+00:00 August 14th, 2017|Parenting|2 Comments

Bad advice from good parents is plentiful these days (see my video at the bottom of the page for more ideas).  Unfortunately, bad advice doesn’t just come from the “bad” ones.  Many times it comes from very well-intentioned, nice, and fully engaged parents too.  In fact, the bad advice that we’re looking at today is so common that you have probably not only heard – but you (yes YOU!) have likely given it to your children as well!  It may be one of the worst things you can say and do to your kids. “What bad advice could I possibly have, both, heard and given to my kids?” I’m glad you asked!  Let’s find out. […]

3 07, 2017

Failure: How to rebound when you fail as a parent

By | 2017-07-31T14:53:25+00:00 July 3rd, 2017|Parenting|2 Comments

Failure.  That’s what last night felt like to me.  Do you ever have those nights as a parent where you lay in bed and feel pretty defeated by your day?  I know that I do sometimes and last night was one of those for me.  As I lay there with my thoughts, it dawned on me how much I had let my kids down. This is a particularly painful thing for a guy who is supposedly trying to help other families “focus on the things that matter most”.  But it happens to us all and I am, sadly, no exception. In fact, one of the truest things about my motivations to start this blog and build a business to help families focus more was birthed out of moments just like last night.  I am so prone to lose my focus – even when I’m writing about it and talking about it every day!  It’s a sad realization but it’s exactly what makes the mission even that much more important to me. Here’s the story of last night’s failure and how I (and ultimately, you) can learn to rebound from these moments and get better as a parent. […]

10 05, 2017

5 Ways to Honor Your Mother

By | 2017-07-31T17:34:05+00:00 May 10th, 2017|Parenting|0 Comments

“Honor your father and mother – which is the first commandment with a promise – so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”   – Ephesians 6:2-3 Since “honor” is not a word that we use very often anymore, a definition is in order. Honor means:  to regard with great respect. Indeed, according to this definition, our mothers deserve to be honored.  But how do we do that? Here are 5 ways.   […]

19 04, 2017

Helping Children Handle FEAR

By | 2017-07-31T17:39:52+00:00 April 19th, 2017|Parenting|0 Comments

When I was a kid, I used to be afraid of everything!  Snakes, darkness, storms, elevators – you get the idea. I was a total wimp!  Rumor has it that if there was a big storm that I’d go to my youngest sister and jump in bed with her.  Ok, that’s actually a true story.  But it was just because I didn’t want her to be scared.  I swear! Fortunately for me (and my sister!), I’ve grown up a lot and I’m not afraid of most of the things on that list anymore. Not as much anyways.  But as my girls grow up, I’m starting to hear and see some of the same fearful tendencies in them and kids their age. In fact, one of our nieces (who is 9 years old) stayed the night recently and was telling me about a scary incident at her house. She recalled the events to me in clear detail.  They live out in the country with no houses around them and she and her siblings were home alone.   A car pulled up their long driveway and they saw that there were two younger-looking guys in the car who just sat in the driveway for a long time and stared at the house.  The dog was going crazy.  The kids were panicking and called their parents.  All of them were all afraid. The next day, one of my daughters was telling me about her and her cousin’s late-night conversations.  She told how our niece is now afraid to be alone (with her siblings) while their parents are gone and how she is concerned about bad things happening.  Fear has taken hold of her. As parents, what can we say to help our kids (or grandkids) deal with fear?  Here are a few ideas. [...]

6 03, 2017

The Aftermath of the Columbine Massacre

By | 2017-03-06T13:28:10+00:00 March 6th, 2017|Parenting|0 Comments

Evil.  Pure evil.  That is the only way to describe the events that occurred on April 20th, 1999, at Columbine High School.  That is the appropriate description of the event and that was the character of those who carried it out. On that unfathomable day, 13  lives were lost and 24 others were injured.  The shooters, Dylan Klebold and Eric Harris, committed suicide and ended their own lives after ruining so many others. For many of us, the story ends there.  A tragic, unforgettable event that sickens, disturbs, and pains our hearts.  But for Sue Klebold, the story never ends.  It will never go away. Sue is the mother of one of the mass-murderers from the Columbine shooting.  Her son was Dylan Klebold. In this short, but powerful video that follows, Sue tells the story of that event from a mother’s perspective. She does not ask for your sympathy or excuse anything that her son has done. However, she is still his mother.  She, like the parents who lost their children because of her son’s cowardly act, still grieves.  When Dylan killed those innocent people that day he also killed a large part of so many others.  His parents included. I do not have any clever take-aways from the story you will hear.  Only more questions. […]

22 02, 2017

Why You Should Give Up On Your Kids

By | 2017-02-22T13:02:17+00:00 February 22nd, 2017|Parenting|0 Comments

“I give up!”  That’s what we all want to scream sometimes as parents.  But that’s not really an option, is it?  Not for you and I, anyways.  We are blessed if we have children and we want to be the best parents we can be.  We want more for them and hope that they’ll turn out better than us.  But let’s be honest:  it isn’t easy, is it?!  Some days, we just feel like we’re going to lose our minds and giving up doesn’t seem like such a bad idea. I know that, for my wife and I, there have been many times that we have looked at each other and just had to laugh and say, “We are TOTALLY screwing these kids up!  We have no idea what we’re doing!”  We sometimes wonder where the rule book is that you can flip open and turn to the page that shows you exactly what to do and exactly what to say to handle each situation that we’re faced with.  But sadly, that book doesn’t exist. But there is hope. In one of the most influential and helpful books that I have ever read, authors Foster Cline and Jim Fay’s book, titled: Parenting with Love and Logic, the suggestion to “give up” is mentioned and inferred throughout. But probably not in ways that you’re thinking.  Once you hear their advice, it makes perfect sense. In today’s blog, I want to highlight some of the advice that they’ve given and some areas that we are trying to learn to “give up” in our parenting.  Hopefully some of these ideas may also help you so that you don’t go crazy and lose your mind! All you have to do is give up! […]