Uncommon describes the fight against being average, ordinary, or just like everybody else. In particular, we want families to be UNCOMMON in their Marriages, in their Parenting, and in their Mindset and we discuss those issues here.

16 10, 2017

The Crazy Cycle. How to stop it from ruining your marriage.

By | 2017-10-16T13:37:26+00:00 October 16th, 2017|UNCOMMON|0 Comments

The Crazy Cycle. You may not know the phrase, but if you’ve been married for any length of time, you’ll definitely recognize what it is. The Crazy Cycle is a term that was coined by Emerson Eggerichs, author of the best-selling book, Love & Respect.  In this fantastic book (his live training and videos are excellent as well!), he explains what this all-too-familiar issue is all about. I try to give a quick explanation of it here, in the video below. […]

2 10, 2017

What to do when you’re scared?

By | 2017-10-02T08:56:33+00:00 October 2nd, 2017|Mindset|0 Comments

Have you ever been asked to do something and it scared you to death?  I don’t mean dumb or dangerous things either.  Like the time we had school called off when I was in high school because of an ice storm that rolled through.  A few friends and I decided to drive around on the backroads and “skate” by rolling down the windows and standing outside of the car and holding on while someone drove slowly around.  Needless to say, that was very dumb and something we should have been scared of.   But that’s not what I’m talking about here. What I’m talking about are those moments in life when you know you should do something that will help you to grow but it scares you to death.  Things like speaking in front of an audience, taking the lead on a project, speaking up for a friend when they’re getting bullied, or standing up for your rights. Wouldn’t it be nice, in fact, if God didn’t make us go through all of those scary moments for the rest of our lives?  I mean, isn’t once or twice enough!? Sadly, that’s not the way that life works.  Fortunately for us, though, every time we’re confronted with things that are scary, we get the opportunity to grow stronger.  That’s why these challenges will never leave us alone and it’s why we have to learn how to handle them when they do show up. So here are 3 things that you need to remember when you’re facing something scary in your life. […]

18 09, 2017

How to keep your family connected when kids to back to school.

By | 2017-09-18T09:46:24+00:00 September 18th, 2017|Parenting, UNCOMMON|0 Comments

Keeping your family connected when school gets back into the swing of things can be a challenge for every family.  It takes a lot of focus but it isn’t impossible.  In fact, there are 3 times each day that you can strategically use to keep your family focused and keep connected.  Quality time doesn’t have to be a long time together in order to be meaningful. But you will have to do create a routine or find a rhythm that works. Here’s what I suggest. (video) […]

11 09, 2017

What you feed grows. (updated with video)

By | 2017-09-15T14:04:14+00:00 September 11th, 2017|Mindset|0 Comments

As I look outside the window of my home office, I can see the effects of what I’m about to share with you.  Directly in front of me, I can see a window full of weeds.  Tall, big, overgrowing weeds of various kinds.  It almost appears as if they were purposely planted that way by the previous owners.  Maybe they were just big fans of weeds.  But just past the weeds, on the other side of the yard, sits a large, strong pear tree as well.  Its fruit has already blossomed and they are falling to the ground.  As I view these contrasting images each morning, here’s what I have learned:  What you feed grows. It’s true, isn’t it? In both cases, the environment in which the weeds and the pear trees grow determines if they prosper and flourish.  But it makes me wonder, why do we even have weeds?  What was God thinking when He caused them to grow, too?  Maybe it was for a good reason (I’ll always give God the benefit of the doubt!).  Or maybe it was simply to show us, since the beginning of time, this important lesson.  That whatever you feed, good or bad, is going to grow. […]

6 09, 2017

How Bad Attitudes Ruin Good Marriages

By | 2017-09-06T09:31:18+00:00 September 6th, 2017|Marriage|2 Comments

Bad attitudes can kill a good marriage.  That’s not necessarily newsworthy or something you didn’t already know.  But it’s something that we need to be reminded of every once in a while, I think.  Bad attitudes often cause good marriages to end up in a place where they wonder, “How did we end up here?  What happened?”  Many times, it all started with bad attitudes that simply went unchecked. I work from home most of the time and my wife, Sarah, is a homemaker.  So that means that we have plenty of time to hang out with one another and get on each other’s nerves.  It happens to the best of us. But she is great at doing something that quickly diffuses the situation and helps us to move past those moments in our marriage that aren’t very fun. Here’s her trick. […]

4 09, 2017

Suffering: Why we suffer, what we learn, and what to teach.

By | 2017-09-04T10:41:14+00:00 September 4th, 2017|Mindset, Spiritual Life|4 Comments

Suffering.  It’s everywhere we turn.  On television, across the country, across the world. No one can escape it.  It does not discriminate.  We all will suffer in one way or another.  But why?  Why is there is so much suffering and what are we supposed to learn from it all? As a father or mother, what should you teach your kids about suffering? As a friend consoling another friend who is suffering, what should we say? As a Christian, what does God say? There is no iron clad, cookie-cutter answer that is perfect for every scenario.  Sometimes, no words are the best words.  But we must wrestle with the issue of suffering and land somewhere with it.  It is an escapable truth that must be dealt with. Watch the short video below for a few of my thoughts then share yours with me.  I’d love to hear.  Tweet me at @natejwhitson or find me on Facebook at natejwhitson and let me know where you’re at with the issue of suffering.  What are you learning and teaching about it? […]

14 08, 2017

Bad advice that MOST parents give to their children.

By | 2017-08-18T12:20:02+00:00 August 14th, 2017|Parenting|2 Comments

Bad advice from good parents is plentiful these days (see my video at the bottom of the page for more ideas).  Unfortunately, bad advice doesn’t just come from the “bad” ones.  Many times it comes from very well-intentioned, nice, and fully engaged parents too.  In fact, the bad advice that we’re looking at today is so common that you have probably not only heard – but you (yes YOU!) have likely given it to your children as well!  It may be one of the worst things you can say and do to your kids. “What bad advice could I possibly have, both, heard and given to my kids?” I’m glad you asked!  Let’s find out. […]

7 08, 2017

My Loser List

By | 2017-08-08T07:57:35+00:00 August 7th, 2017|Business Principles & Best Practices, Mindset, Spiritual Life|2 Comments

Do you consider yourself a loser?  I doubt you do.  In fact, my guess is that you would emphatically say, “NO!  I am not a loser!”  If that’s true (and I agree with you, by the way, that you’re not a loser), then why aren’t you winning more in the areas of your life that matter most to you?  Why aren’t I winning more either? The answer may lie in your list. Or, as you will see, it may be your list that is lying to you. […]

3 08, 2017

Episode #006: UNCOMMON – Marriage, Mindset, & Parenting

By | 2017-08-03T16:02:08+00:00 August 3rd, 2017|Podcasts, UNCOMMON|0 Comments

Summary: Common.  Average.  Status Quo.  Okay.  Fine. These are all words that ought to make you uncomfortable when (of if)  they describe your family.  These words all define a person who has settled in these key areas of life: Marriage – Mindset – Parenting In today’s Podcast episode, we look at the what’s at stake if we settle for less than God’s best in these areas of our lives. [...]

3 07, 2017

Failure: How to rebound when you fail as a parent

By | 2017-07-31T14:53:25+00:00 July 3rd, 2017|Parenting|2 Comments

Failure.  That’s what last night felt like to me.  Do you ever have those nights as a parent where you lay in bed and feel pretty defeated by your day?  I know that I do sometimes and last night was one of those for me.  As I lay there with my thoughts, it dawned on me how much I had let my kids down. This is a particularly painful thing for a guy who is supposedly trying to help other families “focus on the things that matter most”.  But it happens to us all and I am, sadly, no exception. In fact, one of the truest things about my motivations to start this blog and build a business to help families focus more was birthed out of moments just like last night.  I am so prone to lose my focus – even when I’m writing about it and talking about it every day!  It’s a sad realization but it’s exactly what makes the mission even that much more important to me. Here’s the story of last night’s failure and how I (and ultimately, you) can learn to rebound from these moments and get better as a parent. […]