I was recently asked to speak at a local high school on the topic of entrepreneurship and what it’s like to work from home and own your own business. It was an eye-opening experience for me. I had forgotten what it was like to be in high school and to be at that place in life where you have the whole world at your fingertips. It is a magical time. But it also reminded me of something else.
Seeing the kids’ (mostly) disinterested faces reminded me that the majority of people are sleepwalking through life. It starts in high school for so many of us and just never seems to end. I spoke to them of the opportunity to create a life that they loved, enjoyed, and would be proud of. I told them stories of people who had settled for less than an awesome life they loved and how un-awesome that experience turns out to be!
What was their response?
“That’s nice. When’s lunch?”
Okay, full disclosure: no one said that. Not out loud anyway. But I swear that all but a few of them were thinking it!
It made me a bit sad, to be honest. So much is at stake and so much opportunity lies in front of them. But as I thought more of it, it also made me think about the opportunity that I have to influence and impact people who are truly ready to change their future. It made me wonder: What would I say to an audience of adults? What would I tell them if they were desperate for change and serious about creating a life that they loved?
Here are 3 things that I thought of.
How to Create a Life you Love
1. Change your Focus. As Tony Robbins says, “What you focus on is what you feel.” He’s 100% right. This is why the saying is so true, “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t – you’re right!” Why? Because what you focus on is what you feel. And if what you feel is positive – you’ll move towards it. If it’s negative – you never will! It just makes sense.
This reminds me of a conversation I recently had with a friend. She said, “I desperately want to get out of corporate America and work from home. But I’m afraid I don’t have what it takes to do that. I’m not good at this stuff like you are.”
Do you see the problem with this? What is my friend focusing on? What is she feeling as a result? More importantly, what would happen if she changed the focus and said, “I desperately want to get out of corporate America and I know that I can learn anything. Will you help me to learn to do what you do, even if I don’t feel like I can right now?”
You already know the answer to that question! Change your focus – change your life!
2. Add more Value. Everyone is trying to find an advantage to get ahead. We are all looking for that one secret or that one trick that will make everything explode and change our futures forever. Well, here it is (you can thank me later): Add more value. That’s the trick.
There are all sorts of one-hit-wonders out there and people who just got lucky! But that’s not me and that’s probably not your story either. Because this is true, we are grinding and hustling and trying to make it all work. But guess who is the center of your focus when this is the case? YOU! And that’s the problem. You’re trying to add value to your life. Nothing wrong with that. But…the trick to advancing faster is to focus on others. In so doing, you will move faster and live with more purpose, meaning, and joy.
This is why the greatest teacher of all time said, “It is more blessed to give than to receive.”
3. Start now. “When is the best time to plant an oak tree?”, the saying goes. Answer: thirty years ago! “When’s the next best time?” Answer: Today. That is exactly right! Do you wish you were farther along in some area of your life or business today? Will simply wishing it were different or better change anything for you? Nope. So today is your next shot. Today is the day to mark down as the day that changed it all.
“But I’m not ready. I’m not where I need to be for others to follow me. I haven’t reached the top yet.” That’s what people say and that’s how people stay stuck. Do you really want to get traction and start moving closer to your goals? Then do it today! Do whatever it is that you are afraid of doing. That’s usually the answer. My guess is that you already know what you need to do but fear is keeping you from moving. Get going! It’s your life and you are 100% responsible for your results and what happens from here. So stop making excuses and start now.
That’s what people say and that’s how people stay stuck. Do you really want to get traction and start moving closer to your goals? Then do it today! Do whatever it is that you are afraid of doing. That’s usually the answer. My guess is that you already know what you need to do but fear is keeping you from moving. Get going! It’s your life and you are 100% responsible for your results and what happens from here. So stop making excuses and start now.
What are you focusing on right now that is stopping you from creating a life you love? Where can you add more value to others?
Do you know someone who needs to hear this? Please share it with them.