Have you ever been asked to do something and it scared you to death? I don’t mean dumb or dangerous things either. Like the time we had school called off when I was in high school because of an ice storm that rolled through. A few friends and I decided to drive around on the backroads and “skate” by rolling down the windows and standing outside of the car and holding on while someone drove slowly around. Needless to say, that was very dumb and something we should have been scared of. But that’s not what I’m talking about here.
What I’m talking about are those moments in life when you know you should do something that will help you to grow but it scares you to death. Things like speaking in front of an audience, taking the lead on a project, speaking up for a friend when they’re getting bullied, or standing up for your rights.
Wouldn’t it be nice, in fact, if God didn’t make us go through all of those scary moments for the rest of our lives? I mean, isn’t once or twice enough!?
Sadly, that’s not the way that life works. Fortunately for us, though, every time we’re confronted with things that are scary, we get the opportunity to grow stronger. That’s why these challenges will never leave us alone and it’s why we have to learn how to handle them when they do show up.
So here are 3 things that you need to remember when you’re facing something scary in your life.
Scary Things Make Us Stronger
If you’ve been here with me long enough now, you’ve heard me talk about my constant battle with fear. As a kid, and even still today, I still battle it. The issues are different, but fear is still fear.
It’s scary to take on life sometimes. But regardless of how you feel in those moments, you must move forward and learn to take it on.
Here’s what I suggest we all remember when life is scary.
1. You’re not going to die.
Unless you’re “skating” on the backroads outside of a car during an ice storm, you’re probably going to be okay. Sure, your heart may be racing and your palms may be sweating and it may feel like your heart is going to fly out of your chest. But, as of today, I don’t think that that has ever happened like that. (I’ll google it in just a second to confirm this.)
So much of what we fear is unfounded. We feel scared and our bodies respond accordingly. In fact, God has equipped us with this response in order to protect us. But scary things aren’t normally going to kill you. In most instances, we make it out just fine.
So remember that the next time you’re facing something scary. Your heart may race, but you’ll make it. You’re not going to die.
2. You’ve done hard things before.
The next thing to remember is that you’ve been scared before and, in case you forgot what we just said in point #1, you’re still here to remember it! Yahoo for being alive!
You’ve done plenty of hard things before. Life has presented you with scary moments for as long as you can remember. So use that to your advantage the next time that it shows up.
Think about whatever it is that is so scary for you right now. Will it kill you? Probably not. Have you been through hard things before and made it out okay? Yep.
If so, that’s great! Because now you have something to lean on the next time fear shows up.
3. People want you to do well and win.
Let’s be honest. I’ll start with me.
The majority of the time that we are faced with scary situations is when we’re afraid of what other people will think or say.
It reminds me of a time that I had to speak at a retirement training in Iowa. It was the first time that I was going to share what I knew with a room full of people who were depending on me to save their lives with my financial guruship.
Okay, that’s a lie. I wasn’t going to save anyone and no one thought I was a guru. But that’s what fear told me! And I believed that liar! The end result: I about passed out and had to sit down as quickly as I could before I totally embarrassed myself. It was awful.
But here’s the thing that I learned and that you need to learn as well:
People actually WANT you to do well! It’s as painful for them as it is for you when you flop or do poorly. In fact, the majority of people are so preoccupied with their own lives that they’re probably looking at you but not nearly as worried as you are.
So relax. Remember this the next time you’re freaking out or putting unnecessary pressure on yourself. People hate to watch other people implode right in front of them. So don’t do it! Be yourself and have fun. It’ll be okay!
You probably won’t die. You’ll look back at it one day and it will give your strength for the next scary thing. And people are probably cheering you on anyways! So crush what scares you and embrace the challenge! You got this!